"Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart, and try to love the questions themselves."
~ Rainer Maria Rilke
My Story
I became an emotional caretaker at a young age. A naturally sensitive child raised in an environment filled with chaos, conflict and emotional crises, I learned to stay alert, hyper vigilant and anticipate the feelings of others in place of my own.
After a while, the sound of conflict became comforting. My nervous system craved it to feel normal. I learned that anger, despair and hostility formed the melodies of life, and I heard them wherever I went. I felt that music deep within my bones for years and years.
Often, I still do.
That’s the thing with emotions: we embody them.
Growing up, I did not connect with my deeper feelings because there simply was not enough space for them. Instead, a protective shield of anxiety formed on top of all the tender parts that had been exiled away. My anxiety took many shapes – obsessive thinking, physical panic, raised cortisol levels, creative disconnection. It truly was holistic.
I tried hard to exile my anxiety too, with medication, substances, exercise, meditation. But it kept screaming back at me, louder and louder.
That’s the thing with emotions: they want to be heard.
So finally I started listening to them, and through this process, I started to heal. I learned that safe attachment with others, and ourselves, can shift the melodies of life so that happiness, love and compassion are part of its tune. I met therapists, friends and partners who have been that safe connection for me. Now I try my best to provide it for my young son.
My greatest joy comes from being that compassionate human connection for clients to start listening to their hidden emotions that were exiled away. With a deeply authentic, non-judgmental and intuitive approach, I help clients start to love all the parts of themselves – the painful, the strange and the joyful.
My Why
Because we all deserve to be truly seen, heard and understood.
My Philosophy
I believe that healing is non-linear, and that true relief comes from finding beauty in the journey.
I believe whole-heartedly that there is no one expert path to healing. Every person is unique, complex and deserves a therapy tailored specifically to them. Most importantly, everyone has an innate way of knowing what is right for them when guided gently to reconnect with themselves.
My Career
Before pursuing a career in mental health, I worked in communications, advocating for diverse and vulnerable populations. It was through this work that I realized my true calling was in supporting individuals one-on-one. I went on to work in crisis intervention, addiction treatment, community mental health and postsecondary environments for several years.
I received my Master of Social Work through the University of Windsor and am registered with the Ontario College of Social Workers and Social Service Workers.
In addition to my education as a Social Worker, I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, EMDR, Internal Family Systems, Somatic Therapy, Trauma-Informed Care, Psychedelic Facilitation, Addiction Counselling and Suicide Intervention.
My Areas of Focus
Anxiety
Depression
Relationship Concerns & Couples Therapy
Developmental and Attachment Trauma
Complex PTSD
Addiction and Substance Use
Contact Delaney at delaney@integrativepsychotherapytoronto.com, or book a complimentary phone consultation